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The Impact of Typical Dangerous Help Responses Victim's Receive...

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This is again an informal chat video with basic comparison imagery. This video does lose sound early on, yet the sound returns and the video continues from that point. I uploaded this material numerous times and repeatedly ran into this issue. This video is designed to assist victims whose support sources repeatedly give dangerous advice in cases where those support persons refuse to educate themselves........ Please note that out of the box (i.e. meaning solutions that are not standard one-size-fits-all mainstay answers) do work to assist victims and co-victims of malignant narcissists, sociopaths, narcissists and stalkers. The common destructive help suggestions or assistance reactions victims run into include the following: 1) Blaming the victim. 2) Giving dangerous advice that if followed will place the victim is a far worse reality. When the victim refuses to take the destructive or dangerous advice the support person(s) abandon the victim/blame the victim more. 3) Deciding the predator is not really a bad person and can be bargained with or talked down. 4) Support person turning into flying monkeys/aiding and abetting the predator. 5) Religious or spiritual diversion. 6) Abandoning the victim. 7) Use, abuse and exploitation of the victim (i.e. perhaps the victim is desperate and can be sexually exploited or maybe the victim has a talent/professional skill that can be used and exploited while the person using/exploiting the victim in truth has no ability or real intent to help the victim at any point). In order to assist a victim of one of these predators support persons must remain opened minded, must understand the predator is a bad guy not a potential "friend" or business asset to be bargained with and must help the victim within the confines of reality (must understand all relevant variables in the victim's world including the specifics of person in situation). Assisting the victim should not include illegal activity,but may include actions such as researching complex legal maneuvers, hiring a licensed private investigator, researching attorneys, helping the victim hire an appropriate attorney experienced in coping with the kind of predator the victim is actually dealing with. Etc. Other assistance may include helping the victim with safe exploitation free housing, education, self-defense linked precautions, employment, medical issues/medical insurance, etc. Due to the harsh reality that while all predators of a certain kind do many of the same things, not all victims have the same needs and not all predators have the same limitations (limitations of ability to perpetrate, ceiling on what the predator will do to get what he/she wants, limitations of predatory ability to manipulating the system/police/court/CPS/others, limitations on financial means, etc.) there is no one-size-fits-all manner in which all victims can be assisted.. Out of the box solutions means understanding all the real variables and addressing them in a rational way that ultimately benefits the victim or victims and not the predator..... ~ Narcissist and Court Video by Sam Vaknin (may not apply to the malignant narcissist/sociopath predator who is more self-controlled): http://youtu.be/bJ_lumKlMfI ~ Another Video with Sam Vaknin (the reality of a malignant narcissist/sociopath is far worse than the common run of the mill narcissist, yet all are dangerous predators): http://youtu.be/7B8s1O-PRGw ~ Narcissist and Sociopaths/Psychopaths Not Completely Human or not Human at all (Sam Vaknin): http://youtu.be/BQc8kSYQqAY Please note: I posit that the mature malignant narcissist/sociopath spousal predator I refer to in much of my material does not demonstrate with many overt red flags or red flags that are presented by such predators are extremely subtle. The Difference Between a Narcissist and a Psychopath (what I refer to as the malignant narcissist/sociopath spousal partner) by Sam Vaknin: http://youtu.be/YdWs4Rhbz5Y