one sweet day

one sweet day

One Sweet Day: Lamentation & Solidarity for Orlando

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[resources below this wordy ol' thing!] My postings haven't been serious in a while, and although my account is oriented around Mariah I don't think that means I should avoid this pressing issue and should use all my resources to help open up a conversation about it. This tragedy is also very close to my heart since I'm queer, a Floridian, and Puerto Rican (Orlando has a high Puerto Rican density and it was Latin night at the club). I know many lambs are also gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and just a diverse group of people in general. So the song choice, as you probably know, has a special meaning. One Sweet Day was released in 1996 and is arguably the most successful single of all time with dazzling vocals by Mariah Carey and Boyz II Men. That's not why I chose it. The theme is about death and reconciliation after it. That is also not why I chose it. I chose it because Carey was inspired into writing it after losing a close friend: David Cole. David Cole was a music producer close to Mariah who helped her experiment creatively during a very suppressed period of her life. David died in 1995 (near the recording of this song) of spinal meningitis from AIDS. While I don't want to imply that David was gay because he never admitted such, I do want to emphasize the relationship gay people have had with AIDS. The fear surrounding AIDS have often ostracized gay people and perpetuate homophobia, stopping the momentum of gay liberation from the sexual revolution and other 70s independent movements (thank you mama marsha for starting gay rights movement!) In the 90s, since same-sex marriage was not legal and "civil unions" were junk, the more than 1,000 laws that involve marriage did not apply to gay people. This included hospital visitation of a terminally ill person. While gay men in large numbers were dying of AIDS, their boyfriends/partners/husbands could not legally see them or say a final goodbye because they were not legally married. During the crisis, gay men died alone due to homophobic parents not seeing them and legal means of separating them from their partners. We see this now just this week in a different form. Gay men have been barred from donating blood for a very long time and the FDA's regulations mandates that blood centers will not accept blood of men who have sex with men. After this event happened, people around the world have come to Orlando, FL, to donate their blood. Gay men, no. Gay men were not allowed to help fellow gay men to donate blood. And trans women were systemically barred, too, because they are wrongfully assigned as "men who have sex with men" by outdated FDA regulations, but that's a whole separate transmisogynistic injustice and I'll try and find some links on it to put below! Good thing is that all Orlando's blood centers are at full capacity now, but if they run low they'll need more O-, O+, and AB plasma so write that down! I don't know how far I went on this tangent, but this is what was in my mind as I was choosing the song and thought I'd like to share. If y'all ever feel unsafe as a LGBTQ+ person I'm always open to talk! [resources woo] LGBTQ+ friendly hotlines: (For ages 13-24) The Trevor Project: 1-866-4-U-TREVOR or online at www.thetrevorproject.com THE GLBT National Help Center Hotline: 1-888-THE-GLNH Youth Talkline: 1-800-246-PRIDE Trans Lifeline (for transgender people): http://www.translifeline.org/ or callUS: (877) 565-8860 or Canada: (877) 330-6366 146 Things To Do Besides Self Harm: http://www.adolescentselfinjuryfoundation.com/page11 If you have information you think would help the investigation please call: 800-CALL-FBI Find a local event or start an event in your area: http://www.weareorlando.org/ Victims' list: http://www.cityoforlando.net/blog/victims/ Gay and bi men, and trans women can't donate blood still despite conflicting reports of temporary ban lift: http://www.vox.com/2016/6/12/11911994/orlando-shooting-gay-blood-donation...